FORT LEE, Va. (April 22, 2010) - On March 27, my wife and I had tickets to the NASCAR race at Martinsville.

Earlier in the month, we had made arrangements for child care, adjusted my work schedule and anticipated every moment that we would be at the race track. We expected to see fast cars and hear loud engines. We looked forward to seeing screaming fans and eating fattening foods.

As the day approached, we became more and more excited.

On that cloudy Sunday, we got in the car and drove the three hours to the track. We approached the city of Martinsville seeing more and more rain drops. The rain drops continued to fall as we walked through the vendors area, to the hot-dog stand, and to our seats.

We sat for an hour.

We saw some tow trucks drive around the track, but never saw a race car. The race was postponed due to rain.

While we were driving home, we began to dry out and feel better. We realized that, all in all, we had a good time. We were together. We joked. We laughed. We talked.

Sometimes in our lives we all go through those rainy times. A rainy time can be a disappointment from work, finances, or family. Sometimes these rainy times are times of sadness from an illness or death of a loved one. During those times, it’s always better to go through them with somebody. We all need someone we can talk to and with whom we can cry and laugh.

If you are going through a rainy season — talk to someone.

Tell your spouse about what you are going through. He or she is your partner for life, you should open up to them so that you can go through this and every hardship together. Each experience will build trust between you as a couple.

Tell a battle buddy about the storm that has hit you. That is truly where friendships are built. By going through a hardship with another person, you develop a bond of understanding and trust that can be reciprocated when the next storm hits your buddy. Be there for each other.

Tell a chaplain. From the chaplain, you can expect a welcome environment to open up and unload some of the stress you are under. Because of the experience and training of the chaplain, many times we can provide a fresh approach as you face the current pressure you are under.

Find somebody to talk to. Take a moment to go through the rain with someone rather than facing it alone. You may find that, all in all, it was a good experience — just like the rain in Martinsville.